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~ Went out to meet a friend the morning, to get help getting giant bags of cat litter home, and while I was out we stopped by the Granville Street Diner to give their food a try. Despite hearing reviews from locals like, "The food's not that great," or, "Don't bother going there," I found it a pretty good place. The food wasn't spectacular or anything, but it was exactly what I was hoping for, and the hot hamburger I had was really close to hot hamburgers served by a restaurant that I miss because it's back in the city I moved here from. I haven't had one in almost a year, and it wasn't exactly the same, but it was close enough to be comparable, so I was pretty happy with it.

The service was extremely fast, and I haven't yet found another restaurant that serves bottomless mugs of tea, coffee, or hot chocolate for only $2. So in all, a good restaurant when you want cheap tasty food but want something a bit more substantial than fast food.

~ Had a dream that I came out to my parents as transgender, and despite knowing I've told them such before in real life (though mostly that I don't identify with my physical/assigned sex), in the dream, they freaked out. Maybe because I'd made the decision to start living with a male appearance and was working toward that in a much more serious way than they'd ever seen, I don't know, but they were both extremely unhappy, talking about how they'd lost a daughter and were really upset and didn't know how to handle it.

I can get people not knowing how to handle it when someone comes out to them, because it's a mental readjustment you have to make, but even in the dream the whole "I've lost a daughter" bit stung, because they haven't had a daughter since I was in my early teens and decided that nope, I don't like being female, even though I'd never heard the word transgender at that point. I even remember one time, out shopping with my mother, when she made some comment about me having grown up so well but to her I'll always be her little girl, and I turned around in the middle of the mall and said to her that I am not a little girl. And I think she took it to mean that I was embarrassed by her and that I'm a grown person and not a kid, but even that hurt because only 2 days before that I'd talked to her about why I hated being female and the assumptions people made about me when they saw female attributes. It felt like she was trying to shove me back into some parent-approved box that I had just finished telling her I don't fit in.

So it's not like my parents haven't heard some of my trans issues. But I don't think they remember them very well, because we barely see each other anyway and conversations are so far apart and my issues aren't central to either of their lives. In the dream, I tried to tell them that getting so wailingly upset and making the announcement all about them was derailing and offensive, because I was being brave trying to be honest with them about a big part of my identity and struggles and they're now making it all about how hard it is to be them, having a kid with those struggles.

I have no idea why I had this dream, but wow, do I ever feel uncomfortable about the next time I talk to either of them...

~ But in happier news, I got a lot more Final Fantasy X played last night! I got through the horrible Blitzball game in Luca, and it only took me 4 resets before I actually won the tournament. I know winning isn't essential to the game progressing, but it just feels wrong to let Wakka's last game be a failure instead of a victory. I won, 1-0, and I consider even a single goal to be a good thing because I am absolutely terrible at that minigame!

I stopped playing right before the Chocobo Eater boss battle, and did a bit of level-grinding right before that so I'd be in decent condition when I fight later.

~ I did get some writing done, though I'm not caught up to where I should be by NaNo standards. Closer than before, though. I'm a bit less than a day behind now, instead of two days, so it won't take me much effort to catch back up. I just need to sit down and actually write, instead of getting distracted by fun video games.
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~ Did 3 loads of laundry last night, all of them blankets. Because not much feels nicer than fresh clean blankets when the weather's turning chillier every day.

~ I caught Tornadus in Pokemon Shuffle!

~ Played more Final Fantasy X. I made it through Kilika temple, but apparently my brain was too fuzzy to remember how to use the Destruction Sphere properly, so I had to skip that hidden treasure. Oh well, I wasn't aiming for a perfect game this playthrough anyway, so it doesn't bother me that much, but I'm still a little bit disappointed in myself for forgetting the right way of completing that temple puzzle.

I would have played longer, but I know the whole blitzball tournament in Luca is coming up, and I really hate that game so much, and I didn't feel like tackling it tonight. That'll be a headache for tonight instead, I'm sure.

~ And because I'm still in part of the game that contains loads of cut scenes and FMVs, I have time to do a little more embroidery while still playing the game. Double productivity for the win!

~ I didn't get any writing done last night! Not one word! But I'm not that worried, since on a normal day I can usually write 2000-3000 words without much difficulty, so long as I get into the scene I'm writing, so it shouldn't be much trouble to bring myself back to goal.

~ I'm having ridiculous problems with my Internet connection again. My desktop, which is what I use for most things, is far enough away from the router that it needs a signal boosting adapter to pick up a signal. Only as time goes on, that signal gets less and less reliable. Sometimes it drops entirely, but most of the time I suspect I'm getting close to dial-up speeds, which makes doing just about anything online extremely difficult.

I can't move the desktop, because there's nowhere else that it will really fit that's closer to the router.

I do have a laptop, which is okay in a pinch, but it's not the greatest and was bluescreening a lot before I got the desktop in the first place. And I'm not someone who uses a laptop as a laptop, exactly. I prefer putting it on a stable surface and essentially using it like a very lightweight desktop computer. But again, where it's close enough to the router to pick up a signal, there's no suitable surface, so I'm stuck using it intermittently and uncomfortably for important things before giving up and just resigning myself to another night with sporadic slow Internet connections.

So I'm really not enjoying that part of life. I'm not sure why the problem's gotten so much worse lately. It could be that the adapter is low quality and is just slowly crapping out, which is pathetic given that I only bought it a few months ago. It could be the router itself putting out worse signal strength, which I can only tell at a distance. It could be the fact that it's getting colder and I don't know, maybe wifi and cold don't mix.

But until I figure it out, I'm a mostly offline person. Post journal updates, send a few emails, update a couple of other things, but mostly exist in a disconnected state.

I suppose that's not too bad, since it does give me plenty of excuse to not be at everyone's beck and call so much, and to take more time for myself. "Sorry, can't hang around online and chat all night, my Internet connection is lousy!"
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~ Emotional self-care seems to be off to a good start. I started replying Final Fantasy X, because it's one of my favourite games and it's a comfortable and fun game to play when I'm feeling low, so it seemed like a good choice.

I didn't get too far, in between doing a couple of other things last night, but I got off Besaid, so at least I'm through the opening tutorial phase and into the story proper.

~ Despite spending a chunk of the night playing video games, I still managed to stay on track with my wordcount goals, which I'm happy about. I got some great advice from [personal profile] lassarina on writing scenes instead of a cohesive story at first, then tying things together later, and looking at it all that way helped a surprising amount to get me over what seemed like a cycle of "expository dialogue, travel, expository dialogue, travel." That's stuff's about as fun to write as it is to read...

~ I discovered the #makingwinter hashtag on Twitter, and now that just has me wanting to work on all manner of crafty projects. Big warm ones, like scarves and blankets, rather than the usual bookmarks or other embroidered things I've been doing lately. Mostly I've been working on more kogin-inspired bookmarks (all currently finished ones are listed in my Etsy store, if anyone wants to take a look at them), but seeing the tasty food and warm things that everyone's been showing off on that hashtag makes me think now might be a good time to look into a couple of other projects that might be cozier, to keep some of the winter blahs away.
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I didn't accomplish much today. I mean, I made a small shepherd's pie. I washed some dishes. I didn't sleep much. But mostly what I did was feel lousy about myself.

Self-care is one of those phrases you see all over the place now, and I'm really bad at it. I've spent most of my life thinking it's better to put my own needs aside and help other people with their problems, no matter what the cost to me. I tell myself over and over again that giving in doesn't hurt me, that it makes someone else feel better, that the least I can do for all people have done for me is to do what they want for a while.

The problem is, that cycle never stops. Because I train people to expect it of me, and then when it becomes too much for me to handle, it looks like a sudden personality shift. Sudden and unwanted, by people who are used to getting their way.

Take, for instance, a friend who works overnight at a hospital, and who doesn't like being alone. And who has Internet access, and thus email access. Take me, who is awake all night. This person emails me. A lot. And because I don't want them to feel lousy, most of my nights get taken up by a combination of housework and emailing this person. No matter that I feel like going offline and playing video games, or watching a movie. I feel guilty if I do so, because this person doesn't like feeling alone, and so I keep sacrificing my own time to them.

That's just one example in a long line of examples.

So I'm very bad at taking a step back and saying, "You know what? I'm going to do my own thing tonight, and it's going to be for my benefit and nobody else's." Because in that phrase I hear the unspoken, "You have to cope with being alone and I'm not going to do anything to help you." And I start to wonder if me playing video games for a few hours is really worth it, no matter how much I'll enjoy it or how much it will revitalize me, because what's more important in the long run: frivolous pursuits or being a good friend?

Being a good friend is what it comes down to a lot, and I know I have a difficult time drawing the line between that and just letting someone else's wants dictate how I live my life. Hence the cycle. I do it, so they expect it, and me taking time for myself can come across like I'm pushing them away or pulling myself away. And I don't want to do that, because that's not what good friends do, so I push my own desires down into a tighter little ball and just keep on doing what I've been doing, heedless of the damage I know it's causing.

I need to get better at taking care of myself. It's not a crime to want to have fun. It's not a crime to do selfish things sometimes. I promised myself last month that I would make a point of taking one night a week to do what I wanted. I failed at that. I barely got other responsibilities done, because I was too busy being that "good friend" I figure people want me to be. I need to figure out ways of convincing myself that taking care of myself, physically and emotionally, is best.

I could just say that of course it's best, because if I take care of myself better, then I don't get bitter and resentful when people need or want me around, and then I can better handle what they need from me. But that's the same trap I've been stuck in all this time. Living my life for other people, instead of for myself.

That's what it comes down to, I guess. I don't feel like a player in my own life. I feel like the only thing I am is someone else's supporting character, and like I'm not actually living, but just surviving for the sake of other people. And I know that's not healthy. That's the opposite of healthy. And it's not a new feeling. I've felt like that one way or the other since high school.

So tonight, I do just that. I go offline. I do my own thing, and I have some fun, and sure I do some responsible things along the way but I don't spend the entire night weaving between chores and responsibility. When friendships becomes responsibilities, they cease being beneficial and become hurtful and unbalanced. I don't want that.

So, away I go, to see if this great plan actually does anything.
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~ I ranked high enough on the last Pokemon Shuffle event to get a Gardevoirite!

~ Still staying on top of my wordcount goal for my unofficial participation in NaNoWriMo. Not doing it officially means I don't feel as guilty if I miss a day for whatever reason, or only write 1000 words instead of 1666, but my goal is to teach myself to write steadily, consistently. Getting to 50,000 words is no challenge at all for me now; one November I did that in 12 days, just to see how quickly I could do it.

But a big block to my writing has been burn-out, and that leads to never finishing a manuscript. I've learned a lot about writing first drafts. I've learned a lot about editing. I've learned a lot about what appeals to readers, what pitfalls to watch out for, all the things I learned from reviewing for so many years. Now it's time to give myself the lesson that I hope will be the final piece in the puzzle and allow me to complete something that can be further worked on and hopefully, with some time and luck, be turned into a manuscript that an agent or publisher might consider taking on.

~ I finished rereading Courtney Schafer's The Tainted City and moved right along to The Labyrinth of Flame, which I've been so excited about for, oh, about 2 years now. I have such high hopes for this book being amazing!

~ Taking a melatonin pill right before bed does help me sleep, but there's every chance that it helps me sleep too well, since I got about 12 hours of sleep, was in the same position for much of it and so woke up with a load of body aches and trouble moving, and had disturbing dreams in which I started to have hallucinations, seizures, and started to lose control of how my body moved. Maybe I should stick with half a pill when I need it, instead of a whole one, and see if that cuts down on the vivid dreams and too-deep sleep.

~ Sarah Chorn of Bookworm Blues wrote a great rant on the accessibility problems at conventions, and it's well worth the read. It's been a while since I've had an obvious physical limitation (doesn't mean I don't have less obvious ones), but I've still encountered opposition at multiple places when I try to tell them, "Guys, you're not mobility accessible. You need to be!" One company said they couldn't provide a ramp because they only rented a building and couldn't force the owner to put one in without good cause, and said they figured anyone coming for an interview would tell them in advance about mobility problems so they could arrange said interview off-site for better accommodation. (So they required full-disclosure from an applicant, which is sketchy, and then they'd have every reason to not hire that person if it put them in the position of having to force building renovations if that person stuck around...) One employee left that same company because of mobility issues, after the automatic doors stopped being automatic and problems with mobility due to dwarfism made it very difficult for him to open those doors and even get into the building.

I know that at some point in my life, there's a good chance that I, either temporarily or permanently, will end up facing mobility issues again. And Sarah's right: accessibility shouldn't be something that's praised, it should be standard. The lack of it shouldn't be something so frequently encountered by people who need it to be different, and who are thus excluded not only from fun extracurricular stuff (though cons aren't always extra-curricular; sometimes attending them is part of one's career), but also from getting jobs or buying groceries. This stuff shouldn't still happen as often as it does.
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~ Not going to start updating this weekly. I just took a week of relatively Internet-free time so that I could enjoy other stuff in life. It was totally worth it, by the way.

~ My GST rebate cleared in my bank account, so aside from treating a friend to dinner at one of the local Chinese restaurants, I also splurged on a couple of video games. Dark Souls, and Lego Star Wars. They were on sale at a local drugstore, of all places, and for a decent price, and I thought they'd provide a load of entertainment and so would be worth the price.

I'm the kind of person who thinks that video games are a pretty good entertainment investment, since I usually play ones that have a lot of story and so playtime, and I rarely only play a game once. So if I spend $50 on a game that promises me 50 hours of gameplay, that's $1 per hour of entertainment, and that's assuming I only play it once and only take that amount of time to unlock all the game has to offer. It's a lot of money to invest in upfront, but if you're the kind of person who plays games the way I do, it's worth it in the end.

~ The first batch of games in the Humble Monthly Bundle were dropped, and hot damn, are there ever some good games in it! The gem for me is Valkyria Chronicles, which normally sells for $21.99, and even if the subscription hadn't been a gift, then spending $12 for the subscription would be worth it for that game alone!

~ Also used some of that GST money to buy some cheap bags of Halloween candy from the Bulk Barn, so now I have delicious sweets to last me for a while.

~ Now that my book reviewing days are behind me, I'm able to better focus on things like writing. I'm unofficially doing NaNoWriMo this year, and so far I'm on track when it comes to wordcount, even though I keep wincing at some of the things I write. I'm trying to follow the advice I was given by numerous people: write now, edit later. Hopefully it will help me finish things this time...

~ Surprisingly, I didn't actually do much cooking. I got together with a friend to make a Samhain feast, which consisted of various vegetables, chicken, stuffing, and other delicious things, but for the most part, it seems that this break from the Internet was also a break from the kitchen.

Which is a bit sad, since I do like cooking, but I think not cooking for a while actually made me more eager to get back in there and make good food again, so maybe it was worth it.

Though I did make a meatloaf that turned out pretty well. I'd never made meatloaf before, so I'm glad it was edible, let alone good. Definitely something I'll make again in the future, because especially if I can get the ground beef on sale, it's a pretty cheap meal that's not hard to make.
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Well, it's done. I closed down my book review blog. Almost 6 years of my life, and I'm leaving something behind, and that's really hard to do. But the wheel has turned, and sometimes when things become too heavy to keep carrying them, all you can do is put them down and decide to keep on walking without them.

The door may be closed, but it's not locked, though. I'll probably still post a review there every now and again, when the mood strikes me. But it was taking up so much of my time that I felt guilty whenever I took time to do other things, like work on embroidery, or play video games.

Or write. I haven't done much actual writing in years, because of the effort I put into reviewing. So that fell by the wayside, and now I want to pick it up and start walking forward with that instead.

And to that end, I'm taking a little break from online stuff for a week, to step back and enjoy some of the other things in life that got shunted to the side. Probably most of this will involve marathoning some TV shows and playing video games, going for walks, that sort of stuff. And trying to remember that I don't need to feel guilty for doing any of them.
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~ I played the demo version of Yo-Kai Watch. It seems like an okay 'mon game. Kind of cheesy, and like any 'mon game you can't help but compare it to Pokemon, but it seems decent. Fairly engaging battles, if also very simple, but you have to keep an eye on a lot of different aspects so there's that challenge to it. I'd probably consider buying a full copy if it weren't so expensive.

(Because I don't currently have enough games on my backlog that need playing, I guess.)

~ To combat both insomnia and my annoying cold, I took NyQuil before bed. And slept for 10 hours. And feel much better. I think I can safely say that was a "two birds with one stone" situation.

The fact that it was raining probably helped me sleep better, too, since I like the sound of the rain on the windows and roof as I'm drifting off to sleep.

~ The eye on my embroidery needle broke, and I can't find any other needles right now, so embroidery has been put on hold for a little bit. I'll be going out in the morning to buy more, though, so I won't have to wait long. Which is nice, because I was making decent progress on my project and I want to keep working on it.
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~ I seem to be at that stage of having a cold where I'm useless as a human being, much less an adult. I just want to curl up in bed with an endless mug of tea and some books, and not come out until I feel better. Unfortunately, my body seems to also be conspiring against that plan, because I'm still going through stress-related insomnia, which makes my restless legs act up, so lying in bed isn't the most comfortably thing because of pain.

Thanks, Obody.

~ Did some reading last night, watched a couple of YouTube videos, and just generally tried to rest and relax. Can't say that I accomplished much, but it's probably better that way, if I'm feeling so cruddy.

~ I did catch Ho-Oh in Pokemon Shuffle, though. I had to use a whole load of money on Great Balls to do it, because the battle was seriously annoying and I didn't want to keep doing it over and over again and hoping for the best with a low catch percentage, but I did catch it, and now I can spend half a billion battles trying to recoup some of that money I just blew.

~ Technically finished all my responsibility reading for the month! This makes me so very happy, and it's like a weight has been lifted from my shoulders. I still have to write up a final review, and I do want to read T Frohock's Without Light or Guide and review that on Friday morning, but after that, I consider myself free to read or not read however and whatever I want to.

That may not sound like such a big thing to most people, but when you've been running a relatively popular book review blog for almost 6 years, you start to feel the pressure of always having to provide regular content, always having to clear off the review copy pile (which never ends, and that's a blessing-curse of the best-worst kind), and so many books get left by the wayside because you don't have time or energy. I get to step back as of November first, and I think that's the right move for me because it feels like a lightening rather than a pure loss.

~ I made garlic beef yakimeshi for supper. It didn't turn out as flavourful as I'd hoped, probably because I lacked both mirin and any greens to add to the mix, but it was still tasty. Next time I think I'll add more garlic, and probably some chopped green onions, and I think that will help make it taste a lot better.
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~ Still trying to force myself back into the usual things I do, and to not just let myself wallow and stare vacantly at the TV because doing so takes so little energy and I can't be bothered. I need to do things, so I'm trying hard to keep busy until I get back into the swing of living and not just existing. (Whoever said that a little bird couldn't touch your life so much has clearly never had an unsinging rescue bird start singing and keep singing for almost 10 years of their life...)

~ I've gotten 2 book reviews written this week so far, so that's something. I'm aiming for 2 more by the end of the week, which shouldn't be difficult. Well, 1 book review and 1 novella review, anyway.

~ I found out that while some amazon.com reviews crosspost to amazon.ca automatically (or at least I get blocked from crossposting to the .ca site sometimes when it claims I already posted the review on .com) others don't. Or possibly they used to block crossposts and now have stopped, I don't know. Either way, I now have to go check everything I've reviewed on amazon.com and see if it will now allow me to post it to amazon.ca.

I suppose the positive side of this is that my reviewer ranking on amazon.ca might suddenly skyrocket. I wouldn't complain about that; I'm so close to the top 1000 there, which is a nice achievement (I'm close to the top 10,000 on amazon.com, which is still an achievement though not as impressive), and I'd love to tip over that line.

~ I learned to tell the difference between horse chestnuts and regular chestnuts... the hard way. Yeah. No kurigohan for me, and that chestnut sapling I was so proud of is only going to grow up to bear poisonous fruit.

I feel like there's some kind of moral lesson to be learned in this. But really, the only lesson is that I probably should have confirmed that something was what I thought it was before putting it in my mouth.
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~ I made a turkey chili last night. I didn't have as many of the usual vegetables that I typically put in a chili, so it's mostly beans and tomatoes and meat, but it's still tasty, and after a weekend of not eating anything that resembles healthy food, I think my body was craving something with even a small amount of vegetables.

It wasn't as good as the usual chili I make, but it was pretty good anyway, especially with garlic naan.

~ I played Final Fantasy VII to distract myself. Got Vincent in my party, and started heading through Mount Nibel. For some reason I've always loved level-grinding in this area. I'm not sure why. Maybe because this is the area you see in the story Cloud tells in Kalm, when you see Sephiroth be awesome and have level 3 spells, so it feels like the kind of area that can make you strong. Either way, I've never minded spending a while getting lost on the twisty paths, because the battles are good and I get quite a bit of experience.

~ Caught both Celebi and Lugia in Pokemon Shuffle. Now I have almost 2 weeks to work on catching Ho-Oh before that event disappears. Fingers crossed that I can get strong enough, because so far it's a tough battle and I haven't managed to defeat it once, let alone catch it.

~ Fully caught up on Once Upon A Time now, right up to this week's episode. I have my theories about what's going on, but I can't tell if that's because I'm so used to the way the show pulls twists and turns all over the place and I'm getting used to thinking how the writers think, or if I'm just falling for the hints of misdirection. Or if I'm just hoping something will happen even though it never will. I guess I'll have to wait and see, really. At least now that I'm caught up, even when I don't have TV anymore I can watch the most recent episode on the CTV website, so I can stay caught up instead of waiting for this season to appear on Netflix.
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Still not exactly dealing well with Albert's death. I keep looking at where his cage was and wanting to cry. Or actually crying. I miss his singing, I miss the way we'd play the bobby-head game and I'd try to get him to imitate chocobo calls, I miss the way he had this stupid ear-piercing tweet that meant, "You're not awake but it's daylight YOU SHOULD WAKE UP NOW!" I miss the way he used to run laps all around the bottom of his cage, and the way he absolutely hated mineral blocks but couldn't get enough of cuttlebones.

I got his ashes back today, from Angel's Haven Pet Cremation. Who are wonderful people, by the way, and I can't recommend them enough. When I tried to find out where they were (they're out of town, and I'd have to walk about an hour and a half to get to them, but I was willing to do it), they sent a guy to pick Albert up instead, hearing that I don't have a car. The guy was a bit pushy trying to sell the handmade urns they also sell for ashes, but I think he understood that the reason I didn't get one was because I couldn't afford it, because when he brought Albert's ashes home today, he handed over an urn that he and his wife picked out, free of charge, because the colours in the urn matched the colour of Albert's feathers, and I just had to take a few minutes to stop sobbing after typing that because I miss him.

Yeah, I am not dealing with this well. He'd been in my life for almost 10 years, and I've gotten so used to him being around that things just feel wrong now. Even when I was in a part of the house where I wouldn't be able to hear him, even when he was asleep and not singing, I'd still know he was there. And now I know he's not anymore, and I remember finding him and holding his tiny little body and knowing that even though he was gone then, I was going to have to say goodbye again when I handed him over to the guy to be cremated, then again when I got the ashes back, and it seems like I've been saying goodbye constantly since he died.

Before that, even. When I thought he might be sick or hurt and I hoped that it wasn't anything serious and that he'd be okay, but I had this sinking feeling that I wanted to deny, and I told him that if he needed to, he could go, he didn't need to stay if he was ready to move on. And he didn't understand me; he was a bird, his primary concerns were seeds and sleep, but I said it, and I needed to say it to make me feel better, but I started saying goodbye at that moment and I feel like I haven't stopped since.

I haven't grieved for a pet in years. I haven't missed it. And he was old, too; I knew the end had to be coming within a year or two. But you're never ready, not really. More ready than you could be, but you're never ready to have it happen, because until it happens it's not final, and that little painful hopeful part of yourself keeps hoping for that miracle that will mean it doesn't have to happen at all.

I've been in a state of 'existing' over the weekend. I've eaten little but junk food, because I just can't be bothered to care to properly take care of myself. I slept too much. I made myself shower. To do laundry.

I'm making a chili in the slow cooker right now. I'm going to spend some time playing video games tonight, to distract myself and to do something enjoyable. To go through the routines of life even when they're hard and I just want to go numb and not care. I know the grief will fade over time. I know I can work through it. It's just that right now things are so new, so raw, that it hurts to breathe because at any moment I could think about how I'll never get a chance to hear him sing again and I want to bawl my eyes out.

I've cried enough for now. I need to go do something else to distract me from it all for a little while.
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~ After the lack of sleep and the loud pounding and the interruptions of yesterday, and the accompany higher-than-normal level of housework that accompanied it, I determined that last night needed to be a fun night for me. Or at least a relaxing one. That meant tea, video games, and reading.

~ Finished one book (which could have been good but needed a lot more editing), and moved on to a second, which caught my attention from the first page and promises to be a lot of fun. I hope my suspicions pan out with this one!

~ Played some Torchlight, which is fun for whenever I want to just do a mindless dungeon crawl and feel like I'm getting somewhere even if that "somewhere" I'm getting is just better equipment so I can handle a tougher dungeon crawl.

~ I currently rank a little above the 5000 mark on the Mega Banette battle in Pokemon Shuffle. That's my highest rank for any event battle so far, and I'm hoping that I don't drop below the 23,000 mark when it's all over. I want that Mega Stone! And I worked my butt off to get a team that could get that kind of high ranking, even if it isn't as high as some people manage. I like to see payoffs for my hard work. I'm strange that way.

~ It's getting cold enough that my chestnut sapling probably shouldn't stay outside any more. The grass was covered in frost at sunrise, which looked beautiful, but I want to take care of my baby tree as well as I can, and that means keeping it from getting too cold. I know that trees survive winters all the time (obviously), but this one's only been planted since June, so it's young and depending on how hard the winter is, it may not do so well staying outdoors.

So indoors it will come! Now I just have to find a place to put it where it will still get sunlight and won't be destroyed by cats. The last part is the hardest part of all; one of my cats will chew any kind of leaf within her reach, and getting munched on by a cat probably isn't any healthier for the tree than the cold would be!

~ Had a terrible bout of insomnia through the day. First I couldn't get warm, despite my face feeling like it was on fire plus me being able to feel that my skin was actually warm enough. It was like my body was filled with weird pseudo-ice, making me cold even though I wasn't cold, if that makes any sense. But after struggling through that, I started getting annoyed with every sound, every wrinkle in the blanket. A melatonin pill, muscle relaxants, and calming tea did nothing to put me to sleep. It was just one of those days when I was destined to not get any sleep.

I did sleep later, though, which is good.
fandrogyne: (unimpressed)
~ Finally, the basement has been completely siphoned! I sucked up as much water as I could with the ShopVac, then mopped up the rest, then remopped it with bleach and water to kill any lingering mold that might have taken root after so long. It took a while, and it hurt my back bending at such a strange angle while I mopped and vacuumed, but the basement has finally been properly dealt with.

...Or so I thought, until I went back down there a few hours later and saw some water back on the floor, and heard a faint drip, drip, drip. So I do have a leak somewhere, but no matter how much I check pipes with a flashlight, I can't actually figure out where it's coming from. Short of having the landlord come in with a plumber (which will result in another sleepless and interrupted and frustrating day, no doubt), I think I might have to resign myself to just going down to the basement every few nights to mop up.

It wasn't leaky before I moved in. It got leaky when all the snow from last winter started to melt, but that's expected. But at this point? Part of me suspects the water heater, actually, which would explain why I can't find the leak if it's underneath the heater, and it might have happened due to corrosion from all the snowmelt water that ended up down there in the spring. Something I'll have to ask the landlord, of course, even though I'm dreading how much hassle it'll end up being.

Weirdly, he didn't seem too concerned. He seemed more concerned with having the front door issue brought to his attention. That issue being: it doesn't lock, has never locked, and we were never given a key for it. He claims he didn't know. I know he was told at least twice, and he ought to know how many keys he handed over when I moved in. -_-

~ Still having Internet connection problems, only now it's starting to affect other devices, and ones much closer to the router. I really don't want to have to call my ISP about this, mostly, again, because I'm afraid they'll have to send someone out and I don't want to have to deal with interruptions to my schedule. I tried resetting the router and it didn't seem to make a difference. Lovely.

~ The roofing guy showed up at almost exactly 12:15, and given that I was already nervous about getting so little sleep before I'd be woken up, I had even more trouble falling asleep and pretty much only got an hour, max, before all the thumping started on the roof. He didn't get everything finished, but he got the loud part done, and is only coming back tomorrow to clean up fallen shingles that he left on the back porch.
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~ I bought my first binder! I'm probably a little too excited about this, but I can't wait until it arrives and I can see what I look like in it! I've tried to bind before, usually with lousy homemade wraps that take forever to put on and then may or may not actually stay where they're supposed to for longer than a couple of hours, and the hassle just wasn't worth the payoff. So I'm hoping that a shirt that I can wear much more easily than a wrap will help bring a bigger payoff for less effort.

~ Caught Giratina in Pokemon Shuffle! Now, to hope that I can rank in the Mega Banette battle and get a Mega Stone this time. I didn't manage to rank high enough to get the Absolite last time, which disappointed me, but I'll push to get the rank this time!

~ Someone will be coming by to do some roofing tomorrow, which means having my sleep interrupted, combined with the landlord coming over to do a few things to finish winterizing the house (mostly cleaning the furnace filters), so I anticipate not only very broken sleep, but also having to do a bunch of housework again to get ready for him arriving. I did a bunch the weekend before last, of course, but over a week has passed and things get messy or need doing again, so, tonight is a cleaning night.

Then hopefully he can come and do what he needs to do and then largely leave us alone for the rest of the winter. I do best when I'm largely left alone and can live and work to my own schedule.

Fortunately it's both compost pickup and recycling pickup tomorrow morning, which will mean a whole load of stuff can easily be taken out of the house and left for somebody else to deal with. I love that recycling pickup is curbside in this city!

~ Speaking of recycling, though, I'm very tempted to start making a weekly trip to the recycling depot with cans and bottles, so that I can get a little bit of money back. Curbside recycling doesn't give me a deposit back. And I don't have a car, but the depot is less than an hour's walk from my house, so it would be an okay trip in most weather, and even if I only got a couple of dollars back, that's a couple of dollars I wouldn't have otherwise, and I have a ready excuse to get out and walk more.

If I don't start doing that before winter, it's definitely something I'll start doing in the spring. But so far I hear we're going to have a mostly mild winter, not nearly as much snow as last winter brought, so even this year I might have plenty of clear weeks where I could make the trip.
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~ I have new sneakers! They're not ideal, because I've never actually worn an ideal pair of shoes, but they're as close as I can get, and the price wasn't too high.

A combination of needing around a men's size 8.5 double-wide (or possibly an 8 triple-wide, if such a thing exists) plus having a badly ingrown nail on each foot makes finding anything to wear on my feet just short of a hellish experience. I can never find anything wide enough without it being too long, and it being too long usually means the shoe bends right over the ingrown nails on my big toes. If I find something that fits lengthwise, it's so tight that my feet start to go numb after five minutes. And neither option is conducive to actually having my toes heal properly; they've been ingrown and with on-again-off-again infections for over a decade now.

I could, in theory, get a pair of shoes custom-made for my exact foot size (one of which is slightly bigger than the other anyway), but that will cost me far more than I can afford. And only being able to afford shoes that don't fit me has, over time, made the problem worse.

But these new sneakers are decent, and I can break them in over time, and hopefully I'll be able to afford something better later on. They're a stopgap solution, which, to be honest, is what I need right now more than I need something that fits my feet well. Having shoes that aren't falling apart can help me get a better job. Which can help me make some more money. Which can, in turn, eventually let me get the shoes I need.

One step at a time. Literally.

~ For supper, I made oven-roasted root vegetables. I didn't have the greatest variety of vegetables (just sweet potato, regular potato, and carrots), but I added some chopped garlic and onion and greased the roasting pan with some saved bacon grease, which added a next extra flavour. Cheap and filling and very warm, which is just what I want when it's below 0 and rainy outside!

~ Something has gone weird with the furnace where it turned itself on randomly today and refused to turn off. I thought at first it was because it was just so cold outside that it overrode the off setting, but then when it warmed up nicely and refused to turn off... I turned it off by the emergency power switch, and the landlord is coming over on Wednesday to clean the filters, so I'll let him know then. Hopefully it's a simple fix with the thermostat or something, because I really don't want to deal with having more people coming in and out of the house, especially when I sleep during the day and most repair people don't exactly make night calls unless it's a weird emergency or something.
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~ As always, grocery shopping on Friday morning was fun. I took advantage of a few sales and came home with plenty of toilet paper, some ground pork, ground turkey, simmering steaks... Most of what I buy at grocery stores now is meat, because vegetables are so cheap at the 2 farmers markets, so it's better to just get meat when there are good sales and get vegetables elsewhere even when they're at regular prices.

Unless there are some good fruits or vegetables on the markdown rack. Last time I got 5 ears of corn for $1.49, which is a good price for this time of year. Most of the stuff there isn't much good unless you're going to use it within a day, maybe 2, but sometimes I can find some amazing deals on markdown produce.

~ One of the grocery stores I went to has a walk-in medical clinic, so even though I was tired and had groceries to take care of and just wanted to come home and go to bed, I sat there for an hour and a half until I got an appointment. Got a prescription for my asthma meds, filled them the next morning, and yay, I have things that let me breathe properly once again! Expensive, but I prefer oxygen to money most days anyway.

Sadly, my meds are more expensive here than they were in the last province I lived. By about $30. Which is very unfortunate, since it's not like I'm going to stop needing them any time soon, so that's an extra expense on top of the regular expense and bleh, why do I have to be unhealthy, anyway>

I also got this year's flu shot while I was there, which was cheaper than it was in the other province, but not by enough to offset the increased cost of the asthma meds. To offset the cost, the pharmacy would have to have paid me $10 to get the flu shot. They were usually around $20, before. But even then, I never paid, because my asthma entitled me to a free flu shot each year. (Pre-existing lung conditions occasionally have minor perks.) But that same allowance isn't given by this province, so I went from paying nothing to now paying $12, on top of paying $30 more for my regular meds.

But hopefully the vaccine will help keep me from getting as sick this winter, and my regular meds will do the rest to keep my lungs in decent working order. I hate that they cost so much, but I do like not being sick.

~ I earned enough points doing surveys to get a $10 payout! I have plans for this $10. Not huge plans, because it's only $10, but I'm going to have a little bit of fun with it. Money I earn from surveys like that is my fun money, money that doesn't need to go elsewhere, so I'm pretty happy earning little bits here and there to help me buy a video game or craft supplies every once in a while.

~ I finally splurged and bought a microwave, too, which, even though it was expensive (though it was still the cheapest microwave there), will help me make sure I eat more leftovers. Leftovers are a pain to reheat without something convenient like a microwave, so sometimes I just wouldn't go through the hassle, and some food would go to waste. No longer! So even if it was an expense, I think it will save money in the long run.

~ I've been having so many problems with my Internet connection lately. Sometimes it works wonderfully, high speeds and everything... for about 10-15 minutes. Sometimes less. And when it stops working, I'm left with no Internet connection for at least half an hour. I'm not sure if it's the router in the living room, or the signal booster on my computer, or something else entirely. I can't find anything on virus or malware scans, which means that "something else" isn't too likely, but that still leaves me with two options that I can't do much about. Other devices do work when they're closer to the router, but also sometimes they don't, and the router needs to be reset, so in the end I just have no idea.

I suppose I should try to see it as a mixed blessing. A sporadic Internet connection means less opportunity to get distracted by online stuff when I ought to be doing other things. The Internet's great for a lot, but it's also great for killing certain kinds of productivity, and really, sometimes I do need an excuse to step away and do other things. Not necessarily step away from my computer, because there's plenty of work I can do on it without needing the Internet, but step away from YouTube and Facebook and other distractions that I really need less of in my life.

Still. That doesn't make the lousy connection any less frustrating to deal with.
fandrogyne: (part of everything)
~ I finished another book, hurray! This brings me up to a total of 79 books read since the beginning of the year. I'm aiming for 100, and I'm still pretty confident that I should be able to make that goal.

~ Speaking of books, I had a wonderful fangasm the other day when I found the e-book copy of Courtney Schafer's The Labyrinth of Flame in my email! I adore this series, and I've been so excited about the release of the final book in the trilogy, so now that I have it, I'm practically dancing!

I'm not going to read it right away, though. I have to get through the remaining 5 books I have to read by the end of this month, then I want to reread the previous 2 books in the series, The Whitefire Crossing and The Tainted City.

~ I caught Dusknoir in Pokemon Shuffle! I'm always happy when I manage to catch the event Pokemon, even though I know that there'll probably be another identical event in the future. I could it as an accomplishment, anyway.

~ Now's the time of year where I want to do all the cooking! Chilly weather makes me want to be in the kitchen where the oven will keep me warm, and then the tasty things I make will be even more enjoyable to eat. I'm glad that even though I was discouraged from cooking as a child, I learned how to as an adult. I can't imagine subsisting off pre-packaged stuff all the time now. I enjoy things like that every once in a while, but it doesn't take long for me to want to get some meat and fresh vegetables and make myself something good and homemade!

Guess I know what I'll be doing this weekend!
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~ Was absolutely unproductive last night. I played some Torchlight, washed the dishes, read a little, and otherwise just screwed around online.

Which doesn't sound too bad, because I'm trying to keep activity to a minimum until I get my health card and can get new medications for my lungs, but there's still plenty of things I could do that involve me being perfectly stationary. Like reading more. Or making a whole load of progress in a video game. Or catching up on some TV. That all counts as being productive, I figure, when it's all stuff I want to do. But instead I just jump from one activity to another and don't get much accomplished with any particular thing.

Sometimes I frustrate myself that way.

~ Now that the weather's turning colder, I feel like I should knit things. I think I know where most of my yarn stash is packed, but I'm not so sure about my knitting needles, so finding supplies might involve many chilly trips to the basement. Still, it will be worth it when I can get back to some half-finished knitting projects.

Though I really ought to finish my current embroidery project before I do anything else like that...

~ There's a new farmer's market nearby called Mango Fresh Produce, which unlike the regular farmer's market is open all week long. Because I was woken up early again, I decided to take a walk and check it out.

They don't have much there at the moment, and it's only been around for about a month or so, but it's nearly all local produce, except for the imported stuff like daikons and starfruit and different kinds of tea! There's more variety there than at the farmer's market I usually go to. I bought ginger root, a daikon, some yellow plums, pears, a bag of garlic bulbs, and a persimmon, and it all came to less than $12.

There was more I wanted to buy, like cinnamon pecans and ground cherries, but that's enough for now, and I can go back another day and get more fruits and vegetables.

They're also practically next door to a local bakery, so except for meat, I can get just about every perishable thing I eat in one small area. I love it!

~ And now I just feel spectacularly dizzy and nauseous, so I think I'm going to spend tonight lying down a lot.
fandrogyne: (happy)
Earlier this year I was given a year-long subscription to Skoshbox as a gift, and I look forward to it arriving every month because I get to try out new candies and snacks from Japan, and it's always fun to see what gets delivered.

And because I'm sure somebody out there cares, I figured it might also be fun to review the snacks that come my way.

Ramune Bottle Candy - A tiny plastic bottle filled with little round ramune-flavoured candies. They taste like Rockets (Americans call them Smarties, I guess, which is completely different candy in Canada), only with a more spherical shape and a slightly less chalky texture. Pretty good.

Blueberry Plus Bar - (I can't find an Amazon link for these, so the link goes to the Skoshbox site, so you can see what it looks like.) It's a wafer with blueberry-flavoured cream filling. It's supposed to be a high energy snack, but I can't see how it's more high-energy than anything else that's loaded with sugar. It's okay, but it's nothing special.

Chocolate pie stick - Dark chocolate filling in a flaky pastry shell. It's not as sweet as you'd expect, and unfortunately, much of the chocolate flavour gets overpowered by the flavour of the pastry. Which just tastes like pastry. It was good to try, but it's nothing I'll be sad about if I can never have another.

Kimchi Senbei Bites - Last time I tried something spicy from one of these boxes, it was Tom Yum Soup Pretz. And I'm not one who likes spicy food; the Pretz made me have to run to the kitchen for a drink after a single bite! So I expected the kimchi senbei to be similar, especially because they're bright red in colour! But they're not as spicy as I was expecting, which made me really happy! They taste mostly like fish oil, with a little bit of a spicy burn on the aftertaste, but it's mild and not at all overwhelming like I feared they'd be. Pretty tasty, but mostly as a novelty thing, I think.

Kajiri-cho grape soda soft candy - A soft kind of melty candy stick that tastes like what grape soda would be if you could remove the "aggressive purple" flavour from the soda. In other words, tasty but mild. Like a lot of Japanese candies, not overly sweet, which is one of the things I like about it.

Torotto Choco-bites - Holy crap, you guys, these are the best things ever! They look like mini deep-fried brownie bites, and the package says they're supposed to be crispy outside with a chocolate centre, really they're more like melt-in-your-mouth chocolate that has a consistency closer to a brownie than anything else. I tried the pure chocolate one, but apparently there are different flavours, like chocolate-banana, chocolate-stawberry, chocolate-matcha... I might die of happiness if I ever find a chocolate-orange one! Seriously, though, these are delicious and I love them! The real highlight of this month's box!

Nama-ume plum candy with jam centre - These are candies that I don't think would go over that well with a North American market, because they're so unlike a lot of other hard candies I've ever tried. They look just like clear white hard candies with a blob of jam at the centre, and they taste like mild green grapes crossed with something floral. Floral without being fake, I should say; a lot of novelty floral candies I've had try to play up the flavour of flowers, but this just lets the flavour come naturally. The real kicker is the jam, though, which is unexpectedly salty, and I think that would throw a lot of people off if they don't know in advance. I like them, though, even though I don't think they'd be an everyday kind of candy, and I'm glad I tried them and would absolutely eat them again.
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